This Sunday we turn the clocks back and everyone gets a free hour. Your career never hands you one. Every year in a job is a year you either invested or just spent, and most people never stop to check which.
I have watched a lot of smart, talented people make two opposite mistakes with their careers. Both feel reasonable in the moment. Both are traps. Let me show you both, and then give you the one question that keeps you out of both.
The first trap is staying too long.
I know a lot of people who landed jobs at big, well-known banks and firms and then just... stayed. For years. They liked the comfort. They liked the pride of having that name on their resume. And they were dying inside. Bored, doing the same tasks year after year, no longer learning anything, no longer growing. They would talk about leaving constantly and never actually move. Smart people with enormous potential, slowly getting trapped by the very thing that was supposed to launch them.
That is comfort without progress. The name looks great on paper while the actual you stops developing. And it is seductive precisely because it does not feel like failure. Failure is loud. This is quiet. You are employed, you are respected, you are comfortable, and you are quietly going nowhere.
The second trap is the opposite, and it is just as common: hopping too much.
These are people who chase the next thing every 12 to 18 months, usually for a raise. And look, I understand the appeal. Each hop comes with a $5,000 or $10,000 bump, and that feels great in the moment. But here is the hard truth: you can only do that a few times before it becomes a serious red flag. When I see a resume full of 12-to-18-month roles early in someone's career, I do not see ambition. I see a pattern, and patterns continue. It tells me that in 18 months, they will be looking to leave me too.
To be fair, one short stay is not a problem. Layoffs happen, startups fold, and sometimes a job is simply the wrong fit. One short stint has a story behind it. Three in a row is a pattern.
Usually, these people were not actually stuck. They wanted the company to give them more, when they could have stepped up and taken more themselves. They confused motion with progress.
So here is the framework that sits between those two traps, and it is the same discipline I have used at every real decision point in my own career.
At any job, you should be getting one of two things, ideally both: you should be learning something, or you should be making a meaningful contribution. If both are true, stay and keep compounding. If neither is true, that is your signal to move, no matter how good the name looks on your resume. And whenever you do consider a move, you must be able to answer one question: what is this next role positioning me for? What experience or gap does it fill?
That question is the whole thing. Lateral moves are fine. A pay cut can even be fine. But only if you know exactly what you are trading up for. If the only answer is "more money right now," that is not a strategy. That is the trap wearing a nicer suit.
Let me show you how this actually plays out, because I have been on both sides of it.
Once, I was in a role I genuinely loved, working with a great team at a company I believed in. I could see myself staying and growing there for a long time. I was happy. And then an opportunity appeared out of nowhere that I had not gone looking for, with much more responsibility and a much larger team to manage. I ran the question: what does this position me for? The answer was clear. It would accelerate my future in a way my current path, as much as I loved it, would not. So I left something I loved. Not for money. For the trajectory.
Another time, I did the opposite. I held the same title for years while people around me were hopping for bumps. On the surface, it looked like I was stuck. But in the background, the business kept handing me more and more scope, responsibility I knew would compound into bigger opportunities down the road. Leaving for a small pay bump would have been the dumbest thing I could do. The real payoff was building quietly, and it was worth being patient for.
Same framework, opposite decisions. In one case, learning and growth meant leaving something comfortable. In the other, it meant staying somewhere that looked flat but was actually compounding. The company name, the title, the immediate paycheck were never the deciding factors. The trajectory was.
I will be honest with you about one thing: this discipline is hard. It is especially hard when money is tight and a raise is sitting right in front of you. Turning down a bump today because the bigger payoff comes later takes real nerve. But that is the entire game. Always play the long game. Always ask what the next few years are building toward, not just what the next paycheck adds.
So before your next move, or your next decision to stay, run the test. Am I still learning or contributing here? If I am, am I being patient enough to let it compound? And if I am not, do I know exactly what the next role is positioning me for, and what gap it fills?
If you can answer those honestly, you will avoid both traps: the golden handcuffs of a comfortable job that stopped growing you, and the treadmill of hops that never build into anything. You will be one of the rare people who is actually going somewhere on purpose.
Talk soon,
Jeff
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P.S. Hit reply and tell me: are you closer to the staying-too-long trap or the hopping-too-much trap right now? I will tell you honestly what I would be asking myself if I were in your seat.